Jerusalem: Chronicles from the Holy City by Guy Delisle

Guy Deslisle has created a graphic novel travelogue of his time in the city of Jerusalem. He spent a year there with his girlfriend and their two children while she was working for Doctors without Borders as an administrator.

Delisle's book is interesting in that he comes to the city knowing not much more about the city and the Israeli / Palestinian situation than many of us, especially if all our information were gathered from the evening news. His work continually reflects the culture shock he encounters as he goes about his daily routine of caring for his children and trying to work as a graphic novel creator.

It is an interesting take from an outsider at ground level. The three major religions intersect in the holy city and Delisle navigates the confusing waters with humor and bewilderment. Several examples of this include learning the different days of the sabbath all three religions adhere to, which rules come into play for the major holidays of all the religions and where he can shop.

Delisle also devotes time to the different sects within each religion. It's one thing to understand that Jews, Muslims and Christians all reside within the city but each religion also has its own subsets and each of them have their own customs and rules. It is fascinating to see this play out over the course of the novel. From the Hasidic Jews in their settlement to the Armenian Christians, it's clear the city has a rich demographic history.

What truly makes this graphic novel accessible is Delisle's objectivity. He has no interest in pushing a particular point of view and presents the city and its residents as he finds them. It is well worth a read. You can find it here at Drawn & Quarterly's website.

The Fathers Who Need to Man Up

The NY Times has an article today questioning whether or not modern men are masculine enough. Different writers were brought in for the debate and it was a fun read until I got to the piece written by Shawn Taylor. It's absolutely brilliant and goes right to the heart of an enormous problem facing Youngstown and the rest of the Mahoning Valley. Here it is. Read because it's worth the two minutes it will take:

Shawn Taylor, a contributor to the blog Daddy Dialectic, is the author of the forthcoming “The Alphabet for New (and Soon to Be) Daddies, Papis, Babas, Fathers and Old Men: Notes on Contemporary Fatherhood.”



I’ll be the stereotypical male and speak with barely earned authority. The thing that makes me cringe about modern presentations of masculinity is a lack of a code. The notion of honor seems to be considered as antiquated as an 8-track. Nowhere is this utter lack of honor more prevalent than in fatherhood.

I do not care if you wind up hating the woman you impregnate, it is your duty to care for the child the two of you produced. If you as a man make the decision to have intercourse, you consent to having a child. It is not algebra. If you have sex, there is a possibility that you will create a baby. But there seems to be a legion of so-called men who are a host of absent-father sleeper agents. The baby comes and their programming kicks in: “I have to get the heck out of here. At any cost.” This exit from your child’s life creates a sometimes-irreparable rent in the very fabric of their being. What if half of you just upped and walked away? Yeah. Stinks to think about, doesn’t it?


I am not a religious man, and I won’t get into the morality of absentee fathers. However, I am a man who takes enormous pride and pleasure in being the best father I can possibly be. To get to this point, I had to develop a personal code, asking myself questions like: How much disrespect will I take before I push back? I want my daughter to experience me as the masculine prototype. I want her to gauge all of her future interactions with men — either in friendship or, if she happens to be straight, in romantic relationships — on how well I treat her mother. Any man who does not have a code, especially when it comes to being a father, is no man at all.

This goes right to the heart of a problem I identified in a post earlier this year; absentee fathers. Mr. Taylor addresses the issue as a code for men and really, that's the best way to address fatherhood. Being a mature man who is old enough to enjoy sex with a woman means that you understand that any product of that act is yours to take care of. Whether you want to be or not, you are a father and you have responsibilities. You cannot swagger around and expect to be respected if you cannot do something as fundamental as clothe, feed and care for your child.

If you are the kind of man who expects a woman to care for your child by herself or worse, the kind who pushes that responsibility off to your own parents, you dishonor yourself. You deserve no respect from a public who now has to foot the bill for raising your child because you have better things do.

Being a father is hard, to be sure, but there are plenty of groups to support you and excellent classes that will teach you. The most important thing is that you recognize your responsibilities and man up.

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